It's All About The Sex, Isn't It?

When we were born, we are all born the same, with infinite possibilities. Close to God or Source and unconditional by our true nature as brand new human beings being welcomed to this earth. When we are one with the universe, we are fulfilled and in abundance of love knowing that everything we ever needed is already there and available. Just as the birds and wildfowl in the air are fed every day, we can know and trust that our needs have been fulfilled.  In this state, we are fulfilled, full of self-love and able to offer our love unconditionally to others.

 

It is the patterns that we have created in our life, thru past conditioning or traumas or our environment that now limit us from living in this true state of unconditional love.

 

 So now, what’s with the title of this article? Well, let’s focus on Love for a moment. There are many couples today who face tension and frustration as relates to sexual intimacy. Here’s a few thoughts of what you might hear couples say:

·        “Are we doing it enough? What is enough anyway?”

·        “He/She always seems to want to have sex and I don’t want to, is there something wrong with me?”

·        “I thought after so many years and after having had kids the need for sex would go down”

·         “Can’t we just cuddle together? Do you always have to think this is a signal and want to have sex every time?”

·         “Gee, he just got home from a week away travelling on business, and he expects me to put out. I am so tired. Why doesn’t he understand that?”

 

Well, I’m sure at least one of these statements more or less has been said in either your current relationship or one you might have had in the past.

 

Setting aside hormone changes, how we might have been designed to pro-create etc. I would like to suggest to readers that we consider there to be three kinds of love, all important, but all different as follows:

§        Agape Love – selfless love of one person for another without sexual implications (especially love that is spiritual in nature), wide open in nature; Unconditional. It a love that transcends and is our true self as one with God or Source, with no conditioning. It is an omnipresent love all around us that we can tap into that eliminates our fears.

§        Filial Love – It’s a mother’s love, nurturing. It's a committed giving of time, energy, attention, and wealth to further the welfare and improve the lives of other human beings. It's characterized by concern for the plight of other people and an empathy towards the human condition. The fundamental symbol of filial love is the family.

§        Eros Love – physical love. Eros, the Greek god of love and sexual desire (the word eros is a common noun meaning sexual desire)

 

There is a definite difference between these three types of love but one big difference that will be our focus: eros love and filial love are both CONDITIONAL forms of love; they can be influenced by circumstances and by personal past conditioning. They can be controlled, to a greater or lesser extent, by will. They can be marketed between or among people, and they can be associated with all kinds of self-serving motivations that may detract from the welfare of a loved one.

 

There is so much emphasis today on sex in TV shows, advertising on street corners or in malls, sex addictions (like internet pornography). For humans, there can be a “feel good” aspect to sex with the hormones that are secreted after orgasm. It’s like a drug after a while. Humans can get so focused on these temporary aspects of sexual desire. Is it any wonder that our wives, husbands or partners are less than willing to be engaged in sexual intimacy when it’s more about the hormonal release than it is about loving the person you are with and allowing eros love to be an extension of your love for each other as opposed to what society today equates to being LOVE? Could it be that we are trying to replace agape love (all we need and all encompassing) with eros love (that is conditional in nature and self serving in many respects) and considering them the same thing?

 

If the sexual intimacy in our relationships isn’t going so well, it is the responsibility of each of you to look at yourself and try to understand, “ Why is it that I have such discomfort with what is happening, the frustration, the tension between us?” – There is something for you to learn about yourself in this, a degree of past conditioning for you to deal with. Remember, you attracted the partner you are with. There is a pattern here that is creating both of your realities as a couple.

 

Our goal is to live a life of loving and intimate relationships together, right? Then deal with yourself. Deal with the patterns in your life. To get close to God or Source will allow you to live in the Agape Love that is unconditional. In the purest sense, you are loved and one with God in this state. You don’t need the other “conditional” types of love. You are complete and fulfilled. This is the secret to LOVING relationships. So guys, when your wife or partner says she is in the mood earlier in the evening and your antenna is alerted to intimacy for later in the evening, and then you stay up too late and by the time you get up to bed, she’s fast asleep or says she’s tired and just wants to cuddle, think about Agape Love. To be in Agape love you have everything you need. Remember, she loves you and that cuddle from one who is one with God or Source has an incredible way of attracting your wife or partner to you, trust me! A night of passion may not be that night, but be passionate right there and then about getting closer to your true self and the unconditional love that Agape provides. If you are upset when she/he says no at the end of the night, then being upset means you have more work to do on yourself. If you can do this, trust me, the next time you make love, it will be incredible. He/she will open up to you like never before. Why? Because, you being close to God or Source is what every woman wants.

 

To GREAT relationships!

 

Cliff Alexander, The Love Doctor (as featured on The Opus Movie, aka: The Secret #2)

Email: drlove@freedomwithpurpose.com

 

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